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The Perspective on Diana, Princess of Wales

By Chaya Benyamin
 Getty / Patrick Riviere
Dubbed the “most photographed woman in the world,” Diana, Princess of Wales’ rare mix of shyness, fashion sense, charity and turbulent personal life, captivated the world until her tragic death in August 1997. Twenty years after her death, polemics about Diana’s legacy persist. She is described as warm but volatile, naïve yet calculating.
While Great Britain and the rest of the world grapples with Diana’s complicated legacy, let’s review three reasons that support Diana’s legacy as a royal angel, and three reasons she might be more accurately determined a fallen one.

 

The People’s Princess

 

Model Mum.

Unlike the young monarchs who came before them, Diana’s sons, princes William and Harry, spent loads of time with their mother. Unlike her husband’s mother, Queen Elizabeth II, Diana insisted her children accompany her on royal tours abroad, even as infants. Diana made concerted efforts to engage her children with life outside of the palace walls, whether that meant enrolling them in local preschools, riding rolling coasters with them at Disneyland, or taking them to visit hospitals and homeless shelters. William recalls, “She was very informal and really enjoyed the laughter and the fun…She understood that there was a real life outside of Palace walls.”

 

The People’s Princess.

Diana had genuine deference toward her subjects. Although born in the aristocracy, Diana shared none of the royal family’s preoccupation with rank or class-based decorum. Before becoming engaged to the prince, she worked common jobs – as a kindergarten aide and even cleaning houses. Diana would speak to people eye to eye, crouching down (unthinkable for royalty) to speak to children or the infirm. Diana described herself as “much closer to people at the bottom than to people at the top,” and backed her words with support for over 100 charities. She leveraged her celebrity to bring much-needed exposure to expedient problems like homelessness, HIV/AIDS, and landmines. Her humility and dedication made her the queen of the people’s hearts, and made the whole Crown a bit dearer to all.

 

Wrong place, wrong time.

It cannot be overlooked that Diana was a young girl of nineteen, a naïve bride, when she became wife to the 32-year-old Prince of Wales. By all accounts, the marriage was fueled by Diana’s whimsical ideas of love and marriage, combined with her juvenile crush on Prince Charles (Diana was said to have kept pictures of him in her room as a girl). The advent of Charles’ affair with his ex, Camila, must have been a world-shattering. Add to this the pressure of royal life – packed with endless public engagements, stiff protocols, and the unbridled prying of an ungenerous media which labelled her “unstable and unbalanced” – and a sympathetic picture of a woman at the mercy of forces beyond her control begins to emerge.

 

NEWCASTLE, AUSTRALIA - 1983: Princess Diana And Prince Charles watch an official event during their first royal Australian tour 1983 IN Newcastle, Austrlia

Princess Diana And Prince Charles. 1983. Getty / Patrick Riviere

Rebel Royale

 

She tarnished the Crown.

Diana made a habit of publicly airing the details of her personal life and her opinions of her husband in-laws, in direct opposition of the throne’s pretensions to privacy. Diana initiated the clandestine interviews that became the centerpieces of the biography Diana: Her True Story. In the book, Diana blamed her bulimia, self-infliction, and suicide attempts on the coldness of her husband and the royal family. Even the book’s author questioned Diana’s motives, pondering in a later article whether she was trying position herself as the innocent party in a doomed marriage. Her airing of dirty laundry continued in an interview with BBC’s Martin Bashir, wherein she bashed the prince as a bad father and called him unfit to be king. Whatever Diana’s qualms, discretion was her royal duty – one she betrayed.  

 

Affairs of her own.

Prince Charles was publicly demonized for his well-known affair with long-time sweetheart, Camila Parker-Bowles. Lesser known are Diana’s own string of indiscretions, beginning with her bodyguard, Barry Mannakkee, in 1985 –  a tryst thought to predate Charles’ affair with Camila. Captain James Hewitt followed from 1986-1991. In a leaked phone conversation with another lover, James Gilbey, Diana brags about spoiling Hewitt with a new wardrobe which “cost me [Diana] quite a bit.” If Charles’ public favor is won and lost on his level of marital fidelity, it is only fair to observe that Diana too fell short of this mark.

 

Difficult Diana.

Diana’s public demureness and composure stands in contrast to reports of her offered by friends and staffers.  Long-time friend, designer Roberto Dovorik, described her as having something of a “split personality” wherein she could be reliable one moment and total irrational the next. Her former security guard claimed that she was given to outbursts and sulking, and that she had the ability to make “life impossible for everyone.” In the wake of the national backlash against Charles following their divorce, friends of the Prince rushed to supply the press with accounts of her tempestuousness. They alleged that she taunted him and forced him to relinquish his friends. Whether driven by insecurity or circumstance, Diana’s frenetic behavior surely played a role in the unraveling of her family life.

 

 

Bottom Lines: Should Diana be remembered as an attention-seeking, manipulative problem-child, or as a shy courtesan turned lioness in the face of awesome circumstances? You decide.

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