The act of cheating happens for incredibly complex reasons and can’t be reduced to ‘good’ or ‘bad’ marriages, infers Esther Perel of The Atlantic. The concept of marriage has changed dramatically over past decades. Currently, people expect this bond to fulfill them to the extent that it will end all desires and lusts that they fed before it. Marriage can’t offer this. Expecting one person to become the end-all be-all, to provide everything from stability to daily excitement is almost impossible. Cheating is not about the state of a marriage, but about things that happen within an individual. Infidelity offers a thrill that appeals to a profound inner sense of self.
Cheating is about the internal conflict within the cheater and stems from unhappy relationships that can't address this, asserts an anonymous author in Thought Catalog. Society imposes marriage on us at a certain age. Many people chose it because they see no other option in life. This can lead to unities that are fundamentally flawed. Cheating often happens in relationships where honest confrontation is absent. Cheaters feel they can’t fully open up to their partner. Unable to confront them or themselves, they disassociate, avoiding all conflict. The act is a form of escapism from the reality of life. Bad relationships are the root cause of infidelity.